How Can You Deal With The Pressure to Miss Seeing Your Family During The Holidays?
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With COVID-19 still lurking the nation and more festivities around the corner, it is almost impossible and dangerous for family gatherings to take place in the near term.
This scenario can cause mental health distress as the issue of homesickness runs high which could ultimately cause distress for both the parents who are expecting a gathering and also for siblings and friends who have planned for a meet-up the year before.
In a recent article by VeryWellMind.com, it states that the situation might be tough in communicating to your family that you won’t be getting together with them this year. It is even tougher to say that when everyone else is planning on gathering without you.
But what is more important is to make a decision you think is the safest for everyone, which in your case is staying at home. In terms of what to say, you might start by just being direct and honest and say what you said in your question.
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BE KIND BUT FIRM
It sounds likely that your family isn’t going to simply accept that answer, however. They may pour on the guilt when you decline to attend. So it is important to have a canned response that will help you know what to say when they try to get you to change your mind.
You might keep it simple by saying something like, “I understand you don’t agree with our decision. We’d love to get together too but it’s not going to happen this holiday season.”
You might even explain that you can’t wait to get together in the future when things are safe—and that by not getting together this year you’re making it more likely that everyone will be healthy and able to see each other for many more years to come.
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ACKNOWLEDGE THE DISAPPOINTMENT
Your family might be feeling a little slighted that you won’t be attending. Acknowledging that you’re disappointed you won’t all be together might help them see that you’re sad too. And saying you’ll miss them might reassure them that your absence really is about physical safety—not lack of interest.
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OFFER ALTERNATIVE WAYS TO INTERACT
Offer a way to celebrate the holidays without being together physically. For example, you might ask to video chat with everyone when they’re celebrating. If you exchange gifts, you might watch one another open them on video.
Ask your family for their ideas, too. Say something like, “What can we do to make the best of the circumstances we find ourselves in? I’d still like to make the holidays the best I can.”
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SET BOUNDARIES AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
If they attempt to continue and try to guilt you into attending, you may need to set a boundary and end the conversation. Say something like, “This isn’t a helpful conversation right now so I’m going to go.” Then, try talking again another time.
Honor whatever it is you’re feeling—sadness, frustration, anxiety, and perhaps even guilt. It’s important to take care of those feelings so you can still enjoy the holidays with your partner and your kids.
In the meantime, try to devote your time and energy to making this holiday season the best you can despite the circumstances. You might honor some family traditions and even create a new one or two.
SOURCE
Author: Amy Morin, LCSW
Publication: VeryWellMind.com
Title: Ask a Therapist: How Can I Deal With Pressure to See Family For The Holidays?
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